Approximately three-fourths of Americans do not have a basic will.[1] Many of the same people also have children under the age of 18, which underscores a major misunderstanding about estate plans: They can accomplish much more than just handling financial assets (money, accounts, and property).
One of the most important estate plan functions for parents of minor children is the ability to provide specific guidance about how their children will be cared for and who will care for them in case something happens to the parents.
To account for all emergency contingencies concerning you and your children, your estate plan should form a comprehensive safety net that addresses your children’s care needs and protects them from the unthinkable.
Three Tools You Need If You Have Minor Children
As parents, we instinctively strive to shield our children from harm and set them up for success, now and in the future.
While we cannot predict the future, we can prepare for it. Estate planning is a crucial step in this preparation, especially when minor children are involved. It is not only about distributing your money and property after your death; it is also about establishing ways to care for your children if you no longer can.
Your death or incapacity (inability to manage your affairs) from a sudden illness or accident is a situation that you would likely rather not think about but must consider in preparing for worst-case scenarios that could lead to a court deciding who cares for your child.
To safeguard your children’s future, a Last Will or a Revocable Living Trust are estate planning tools that are particularly important.
Last Will and Testament
A last will and testament (also known as a will) is a cornerstone of any estate plan, but it takes on added importance when you have minor children. Your will outlines your wishes regarding the distribution of your money and property after your death. It also allows you to do the following:
- Name a guardian. A guardian is the person you want to raise your children if you and the other legal parent are deceased. The most common choice of guardian is a close family member, such as grandparents or siblings, or a close family friend.
- Establish an inheritance for your children. Because minors cannot directly inherit money and property over a certain limit set by state law, there needs to be a way to handle their inheritance for them until they reach legal adulthood. A testamentary trust (one that is created in a will) is a safe way to set aside money and property for your minor children. The terms of the testamentary trust allow you to name a trustee to oversee the inheritance. However, a testamentary trust must go through a probate proceeding.
- Name an executor. An executor (or personal representative) is the person you designate to carry out the instructions in your will, including managing your estate and distributing your money and property. They might work closely with the guardian and the trustee to ensure that your instructions are executed smoothly and according to plan. The same person may serve in more than one role in your estate plan (e.g., guardian and trustee, guardian and executor).
Revocable Living Trust
The parents of minor children might consider a revocable living trust that holds their accounts and property during their lifetime and distributes them after their death.
You (the parent) maintain control of the accounts and property in the trust while you are alive as the current trustee. You can change the trust’s terms as needed because you are the trustmaker, and this type of trust is revocable. A revocable living trust can help avoid probate and give your children faster access to the resources they need. You can also specify how and when your children receive their inheritance, name a successor trustee to continue management of the trust if you suffer incapacity, and provide financial support for the guardian, further synergizing your estate plan.
Other Planning Tools and Tips for Parents
Parents should understand that they can only nominate a guardian for their child, not legally appoint one; the court has the final authority to decide, though it gives significant weight to the parents’ nomination.
If there is evidence that your chosen guardian is unfit or unable to provide proper care, the court may appoint a different guardian in the child’s best interest, even if it goes against your wishes. There is also the chance that a family member could contest your guardianship choice or your first choice of guardian is unavailable.
These outcomes are unlikely, but since they could undermine your wishes, there are additional steps you can take to minimize the risk and strengthen your case.
- In a separate letter, sometimes referred to as a letter of intent, clearly state your choice of guardian and provide a detailed explanation of why you believe this person is the best fit. Speak to their qualifications, relationship with your children, and ability to provide a stable and loving home.
- Name alternative guardians in case your first choice is unable or unwilling to serve.
- To prevent misunderstandings and reduce the likelihood of a challenge, have open and honest conversations with family members about your guardianship decision. Explain your reasoning and address any questions or concerns they may have.
- Have your will properly executed according to your state’s laws. To be legally binding, they may need to be witnessed and notarized and meet other requirements.
Fitting Together the Pieces of Your Estate Plan
Each part of an estate plan has a role to play, but they work best when considered as parts of a larger plan that addresses big issues such as the well-being of your minor children.
If you have minor children, estate planning is a necessity. Do not leave your children’s future to chance. Consult with an estate planning attorney to create a multipoint plan that protects you and your family.
[1] Victoria Lurie, 2025 Wills and Estate Planning Study, Caring (Feb. 18, 2025), https://www.caring.com/caregivers/estate-planning/wills-survey.
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